Coping with failure–especially as a teen–can seem like an impossible task. Everything seems to be harder as a teenager. As we grow and make more mistakes, we come to learn that life is full of failures, but it definitely isn’t the end of the world. Whether it’s a break up, a failed exam, or a different type of failure, life will move on and eventually you will, too. As a teen, coping with failure may not seem like an option, but failures are just lessons to be learned. Failure isn’t something you can avoid, but you can make it easier by learning how to cope with it.
4 tips for coping with failure
Psychology Today recently wrote an article offering advice on a few ways for coping with failure:
Use the Pain of Failure
Failure doesn’t have to be the end of something. It doesn’t mean you’re incompetent or inferior, it just means you need to pull lessons from your failure and try again while considering that new information. Many people turn away from the pain of failure, give up, and move on to something else–this can be a mistake. Using that discomfort and pain as a catalyst to push your motivation to succeed can be extremely beneficial.
Be Open to the Truth
Many people’s way of coping with failure is to blame it on anything but themselves, while usually the failure did have something to do with them. To cope and move past failure, one has to recognize what they did wrong, that’s the only way someone can improve. For example, if you fail an exam that you knew was going to be hard, the mistake would be not studying enough. Acceptance is the only way to improve.
Failure is normal and it’s really unhelpful to beat yourself up over it. Instead, forgive yourself and decide you’re going to do better next time. Being able to honestly assess your actions is a large part of being able to make good decisions and become successful.
Be Open to Learning and Change
This is a large part of coping with failure. If you’ve been doing something the same way for years and then suddenly it doesn’t work, but you continue to do it, even though it results in failure–that’s not moving forward, that’s being stagnant. Being open to learning larger lessons and new ways to do things is an important skill in life. Being flexible and open to change will allow you to adjust with failures and even dodge some in the future.
Some young people need an extra hand in developing the necessary skills for coping with failure–and that’s okay. Parents can only teach and do so much for their children, sometimes it’s helpful to seek out a professional for guidance on how to help your teen gain the skills required for moving forward and excelling in life.
For more information about helping your teen coping with failure, check out ViewPoint Center.
ViewPoint Center is a teen mental health hospital that can help your teen find success.