Four Teen Tips for Coping with Failure

Coping with failure–especially as a teen–can seem like an impossible task. Everything seems to be harder as a teenager. As we grow and make more mistakes, we come to learn that life is full of failures, but it definitely isn’t the end of the world. Whether it’s a break up, a failed exam, or a different type of failure, life will move on and eventually you will, too. As a teen, coping with failure may not seem like an option, but failures are just lessons to be learned. Failure isn’t something you can avoid, but you can make it easier by learning how to cope with it.

4 tips for coping with failure

Psychology Today recently wrote an article offering advice on a few ways for coping with failure:

Use the Pain of Failure

Failure doesn’t have to be the end of something. It doesn’t mean you’re incompetent or inferior, it just means you need to pull lessons from your failure and try again while considering that new information. Many people turn away from the pain of failure, give up, and move on to something else–this can be a mistake. Using that discomfort and pain as a catalyst to push your motivation to succeed can be extremely beneficial.

Be Open to the Truth

Many people’s way of coping with failure is to blame it on anything but themselves, while usually the failure did have something to do with them. To cope and move past failure, one has to recognize what they did wrong, that’s the only way someone can improve. For example, if you fail an exam that you knew was going to be hard, the mistake would be not studying enough. Acceptance is the only way to improve.

Forgive Yourself

Failure is normal and it’s really unhelpful to beat yourself up over it. Instead, forgive yourself and decide you’re going to do better next time. Being able to honestly assess your actions is a large part of being able to make good decisions and become successful.

Be Open to Learning and Change

This is a large part of coping with failure. If you’ve been doing something the same way for years and then suddenly it doesn’t work, but you continue to do it, even though it results in failure–that’s not moving forward, that’s being stagnant. Being open to learning larger lessons and new ways to do things is an important skill in life. Being flexible and open to change will allow you to adjust with failures and even dodge some in the future.

Seeking help

Some young people need an extra hand in developing the necessary skills for coping with failure–and that’s okay. Parents can only teach and do so much for their children, sometimes it’s helpful to seek out a professional for guidance on how to help your teen gain the skills required for moving forward and excelling in life.

For more information about helping your teen coping with failure, check out ViewPoint Center.

ViewPoint Center is a teen mental health hospital that can help your teen find success.

London Bans Skinny Models: Helpful or Not to Body Image in Teens?

Unless you haven’t heard, the White House hosted the first United States of Women summit meeting recently. Many notable women spoke about body image in teens and youth, including Michelle Obama and Oprah Winfrey; but men spoke, too, including the new mayor of London Sadiq Khan. Khan announced a new policy coming up that will ban ads on public transport that promote unrealistic body standards for women. This begs the question, though: will this ban really positively impact body image in teens? The New York Times wrote an article covering the possible answers to this question.

Media definitely affects body image in teens

Let’s get this one out of the way. Multiple studies have shown that unrealistic bodies airbrushed to perfection being slapped on every surface, tv show, and magazine has a negative impact on body image in teens–it can even inspire eating disorders. While we all want a solution to this issue, many critics believe this ban will only help reinforce the current stereotypes.

Banning a type of body isn’t the way to go

Yes, models are usually very thin–but many people have that body type naturally. So, with this ban, is London looking to make a body type “bad”? While the mayor has good intentions, banning “skinny models” probably isn’t the way to go. That’s telling a whole group of people their body is wrong. The issues of body image in teens usually develop from a feeling that their body isn’t “good enough” or “perfect” like the ones they see all over the place.

Not getting rid of the judgement

Girls with body image issues often believe they’re being judged for their body. This ban isn’t getting rid of that aspect. The ads will go to an approval board and they will decide who’s body is okay to advertise, how is that any better? Someone is still deciding what “healthy” looks like and what “beautiful” looks like, so it’s strengthening the idea that someone else judges your body.

Stop promoting the “right” body type

Limiting the types of bodies exposed to teens isn’t going to solve the problem of negative body image in teens. It will only show them that there’s a specific body type that’s “right.” The solution is to show all body types. Skinny, chubby, curvy, short, tall, average–all of them. This gets rid of the idea that one body type is “right” and the rest are inferior.

For more information about body image in teens, check out Asheville Academy for Girls.

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Helping Your Out of Control Teenager Gain Control

Out of control teenager–not an infrequent phrase for parents to describe their children. Teens are notorious for being overly emotional, combative, and hormonal–all this is normal. But for some teens, it’s a stronger, more confusing experience, leading difficult behaviors to arise. Psych Central recently wrote an article giving advice on how to help your out of control teenager learn to control their emotions more effectively. Now, there’s no “one size fits all” fix for this issue, you just have to help guide your child towards what helps them the most.

Our negative emotions

Humans have a wide range of emotions, some of them really positive, others fairly negative–but we need them all. If we didn’t have, let’s say guilt, we wouldn’t know how to identify if something was wrong. These negative emotions–anger, jealousy, sadness, greed, etc.–can sometimes gain control of our lives though, especially for an out of control teenager. These emotions can get in the way of positive emotions, like happiness, love, etc.

Getting an out of control teenager to move past their emotions

As the mental health issue stigma continues to shrink as the world becomes more informed, more tv shows, movies, and more are trying to educate the public on the issues adolescents face. An example of this is Inside Out, a movie about an adolescent girl who is having extreme difficulties pinning down and controlling her many emotions. Misunderstandings of where these emotions are coming from often result in a very confused, very emotional out of control teenager. One of the things to do is to find the root of the emotions.

Try to recognize the emotion, then trace back why you’re reacting that way. Do this as an outsider to your own emotions, otherwise you view becomes clouded and it’s hard to pinpoint the root of the issue. Figuring out why an emotion is developing allows an out of control teenager to either avoid what’s causing it or learn to work through it in a healthier way. Offering this advice to your son or daughter can greatly help in guiding them towards a deeper control and understanding of their feelings.

Finding help for your teen

Parents can only help their teens to a certain point, when it goes past that point, it’s important to seek out a professional for further guidance. There’s no shame in reaching out for extra help, you’re doing exactly what a parent is supposed to do–care for their child.

For more information about helping your out of control teenager gain control, check out ViewPoint Center.
ViewPoint Center is a teen mental health hospital for adolescents ages 11-18.

Texas Shooting Emphasizes the Importance of Mental Health Evaluations

There was a devastating shooting in Texas recently that ended the lives of three individuals. When tragedy strikes, we often look back and say: “what could we have done to avoid this situation?” When it comes to shooting, sometimes the person holding the gun had a history of mental illness. Unfortunately, nothing can be done to prevent the loss of the victims in Texas but action can be taken when it comes to mental health evaluations. Taking the proper precautions to avoid issues developing from mental health issues could potentially save lives.

The Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

Many people today consider mental health evaluations to be a negative thing. There is an unfortunate stigma against mental health care. Getting mental health evaluations for yourself and your teen should be something people regularly do, just like getting a yearly check-up. People often avoid mental health due to the stigma associated with it. If your family has a history of mental health issues, such as bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety, or personality disorders, it’s even more essential for mental health evaluations to be a regular occurrence for you and your teen.

When to Get a Mental Health Evaluation

  1. Difficulty functioning on a daily basis: If your teen struggles with daily tasks like attending school or getting out of bed in the morning, it may be time for them to be evaluated. These are common signs that they are struggling with a mental health issue.
  2. Regular substance abuse: If you have frequent issues with your teen abusing substances, there may be more going on than just peer pressure or teenage rebellion. Often, tens abuse substances in order to cope with some other mental health issue occurring.
  3. Mood swings. While mood swings are common throughout teen years, random outbursts of emotion can be more than just teen angst. They are a common sign that something more serious is happening to your teen’s mental state. If emotional outbursts are a regular occurrence, a mental health evaluation may be helpful in determining if your teen is suffering from a mental health issue.
  4. Recent trauma: Trauma can trigger a variety of mental health issues including PTSD, depression, and anxiety.
  5. Withdrawn behavior: Mental health issues are often associated with withdrawn behaviors. Teens can often isolate or withdraw themselves from loved ones or friends. If this is happening with your teen, a mental health evaluation could help.

For more information about getting a mental health evaluation, check out ViewPoint Center.

ViewPoint Center is a teen mental health hospital that provides comprehensive diagnostic assessments and treatment plans to struggling teens.

‘Finding Dory’ Fights Disability Stereotypes

Recently, Disney Pixar has been taking on difficult stereotypes, especially concerning disability stereotypes. It started with Finding Nemo, the tale of a young fish with a small fin that makes it difficult for him to swim correctly, yet he went on a grand adventure, overcame challenges, and made lifelong friends–all with a disability. The other recent one was Inside Out, which focused more on mental health, but shattered disability stereotypes nonetheless.

Now Disney Pixar is back at it again with Finding Dory (sequel to Finding Nemo). This focuses on Dory, a fish with memory loss issues, and her quest to find her parents. CBS News recently published an article about how the plot of Finding Dory helps dismantle disability stereotypes.

How ‘Finding Dory’ fights disability stereotypes

“The problem is not necessarily that Dory’s brain works differently from other people’s, but that other people aren’t willing to extend kindness or be patient with her, or work with her on the terms that her brain works.” –Alyssa Rosenberg, Washington Post columnist

There are so many disability stereotypes floating around in our society. It’s thought that if you have a disability, you can’t excel, you can’t move forward, you can’t do things by yourself–which none of these are correct. In Finding Dory, Dory has lived her whole life with short-term memory loss, but she’s never allowed disability stereotypes to get in her way.

Finding Dory doesn’t just include one character with a disability, but many. Bailey the beluga whale struggles with his sonar abilities, Hank the octopus only has 7 tentacles, and Destiny the shark has vision issues. But while all of these characters have a disability that many believe would hold them back, none of them have let these disability stereotypes keep them from discovering other helpful, awesome skills.

This movie sends a very positive message to young children and youth who have a disability. It teaches them that your disability doesn’t have to define you and it can even become your greatest strength.

For information about residential treatment centers for teens that help young people struggling with a disability, check out Seven Stars.

Issues Surrounding Early Puberty for Girls

The typical thoughts that come to mind when thinking of puberty for girls is middle school, training bras, acne, etc. According to a recent study, for many girls, this is beginning much earlier–in the middle of elementary school to be exact. The Atlantic recently covered the details of the study.

The study

A pediatric endocrinologist by the name of Louise Greenspan and a group of other researchers put together a longitudinal study of 1,200 girls, ages 6 to 8, for seven years (2004-2011). They were trying to determine when exactly puberty for girls started.

A girl’s first menstrual cycle usually marks the beginning of puberty for girls, but the beginning should actually be marked by when breast growth starts. To measure this, a doctor must conduct in-person exams.

What did we learn about puberty for girls?

What they found was surprising; half of the girls in the study were hitting puberty earlier than 9 to 10 years old. Why is this surprising? Because at the turn of the century, girls were known to get their periods around 16 to 17 years old with less than 5 percent getting theirs at 8. It’s normal now for a 13 year old to get their period.

Risks for developing puberty for girls early

Obesity, witnessing violence, food insecurity, and chemicals in the environment all contribute to risk factors for early puberty in girls. Some carpeting, shampoos, plastic toys, and plastic bottles contain compounds that mess with the way our endocrine system (glands and hormones) functions, which can cause early puberty for girls.

Why is early puberty for girls dangerous?

Well, it’s been linked to a multitude of issues, including a higher risk of developing diabetes, breast cancer, teen pregnancy, HPV, heart disease, and more. Developing earlier can also put a young girl at a much greater chance of depression, substance abuse, and sexual activity earlier than suggested.

For more information about early puberty in girls, check out Trails Carolina.

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Childhood trauma a factor in developing depression

Childhood trauma, especially if unknown to the parent or left untreated, can lead to depression. Studies have shown that those who experienced a childhood trauma have a much higher risk of developing depression later in life.

From Mayo Clinic, other factors which increase your teen’s chances of developing or triggering include:

  • Issues which lower self-esteem (obesity, bullying, academic struggles, peer issues, etc.)
  • Witnessing or being the victim of violence (physical or sexual abuse)
  • Having a current condition (bipolar disorder, eating disorders, anxiety disorders, etc.)
  • Dealing with a learning disability and/or ADHD
  • Experiencing frequent pain or suffering from a chronic physical illness (cancer, diabetes, asthma, etc.)
  • Substance abuse
  • Being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender within an environment which is not supportive
  • Family history of issues with depression

Childhood Trauma and Sleep Deprivation Hinder Immune System

In a report by ScienceDaily, the University of Eastern Finland discovered that childhood trauma and disturbed sleep cycles mess up immune system regulation. Depression, childhood trauma, and sleep interruptions are all associated with an increase in physical issues and fluctuations in how the immune system functions. The study focused on the way Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) works and the mechanisms within it that have to do with immune system regulation.

According to the study, changes in the regulation of the immune system are thought to be a large piece in mediating the diseases linked to MDD and the disorders that develop along with MDD. Childhood trauma and sleep cycle disturbances cause certain chemicals in the body to elevate or decrease, causing issues with immune system regulation, which in turn plays a large role in an individual’s well-being and likeliness to develop issues associated with MDD.

For more information about helping your teen through childhood trauma, Solstice East can help.

Solstice East is a residential treatment center for teen girls ages 14-18.

Recent Research Finds Link Between ADHD and Anxiety

ADHD and anxiety disorders seem to be similar in genetic makeup, making researchers believe there may be a link between the two. PsychCentral recently published an article outlining new genetic research that links ADHD and anxiety disorders. It’s been shown that around 30 percent of those with ADHD have also been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Anxiety has a way of increasing and worsening the symptoms of ADHD because it messes with focus–something ADHD already makes difficult.

The Link Between ADHD and Anxiety

Researchers think ADHD can worsen or even produce anxiety. If someone’s ADHD is making daily life difficult and disorienting, that could easily produce an amount of anxiety that could eventually become overwhelming. It’s thought that ADHD cannot create an anxiety disorder, though someone with ADHD has a higher chance of developing one.

It’s important to recognize when your child is struggling with ADHD and anxiety in order to help them reach their full potential and overcome their challenges.

Different types of ADHD and anxiety

According to Mayo Clinic, there are three types of ADHD:

  1. Inattentive: The symptoms of predominantly inattentive ADHD majorly fall under being inattentive, such as getting distracted easily, having trouble organizing tasks, trouble with focusing, etc.
  2. Hyperactive-Impulsive: These symptoms largely fall under impulsive and hyperactive behavior, such as frequent fidgeting, talking too much, having issues staying still, etc.
  3. Combination: This is the most common type of ADHD and it’s a mix of symptoms from inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive.

According to Mayo Clinic, there are many types of anxiety disorders common to youth:

  • Generalized Anxiety Disorder: This is excessive and reoccurring worry or stress over events or activities–even regular ones. Often creates a feeling of being out of control or affects how someone feels physically.
  • Panic Disorder: This is characterized by multiple episodes of intense fear or terror that escalate to a peak in minutes. It often creates feelings of helplessness, shortness of breath, rapid breathing, etc.
  • Separation Anxiety Disorder: This is a childhood disorder in which a child has an escalated amount of anxiety related to separating from parents or guardians.

Social Anxiety Disorder (Social Phobia): This is characterized by large amounts of anxiety surrounding social situations due to a fear of being embarrassed or judged.

For more information about ADHD and anxiety, check out Asheville Academy for Girls.
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Emotional Well Being Influenced by Healthy Family Relationships

Healthy Family Relationships Influencing Your Emotions

Some of us develop healthy family relationships, while others have more difficulty staying connected. Whether we have remained close to our families or not, they play a huge role in determining who we become, the interests we pursue, and the values we embody. Recent studies have found that healthy family relationships could play a large role in your mental health later in life. PsyBlog recently released an article discussing research that has linked healthy family relationships to emotional responses.

Research on Emotional Responses to Family Relationships

Researchers conducted a study to determine how heritable emotional response was to healthy family relationships. To test this, researchers did brain scans of 35 different families. This study is the first study to bridge animal and human clinical research to show a possible transmission of emotional responses linked to depression and other mental illnesses. The brain system governing emotional response is most passed down from mother to daughter. Fathers were less likely to pass on emotional responses to either boys or girls.

The researchers found that the volume of grey matter in the brain scans was more similar in certain areas related to the emotions in mothers and daughters. But the other healthy family relationships did not show the same link. These results provide potential tools to better understand depression and other mental illnesses including, anxiety, autism, addiction, schizophrenia, and dyslexia which are all believed to be influenced by healthy family relationships.

Seek The Help You Need

Healthy family relationships are not the only factor that play a role in emotional responses and mental health. Genes that are not inherited from the mother, social environment, and life experiences all play a part in the overall wellbeing of our mental health. If you’ve had issues developing health family relationships, it could be the root of any mental health issues you’ve been struggling with. There are solutions available if you’re concerned about your mental health. There are multiple therapy counselor options available that work on multiple mental health issues. You are not alone in this. Don’t let the stigma of mental health stop you from seeking the help you need to achieve wellbeing.
For more information about building healthy family relationships, check out ViewPoint Center.

Prince William Speaks Out: Teen Mental Health a ‘Priority’

On Father’s Day, Prince William, Duke of Cambridge, released a statement concerning the importance of youth and teen mental health. He urged other parents to accept that youth and teen mental health issues are common and require as much attention as physical health issues. As a father of two, he spoke about the need for parents to be aware of the the signs of mental health issues to catch them earlier and get treatment. He related all of this back to huge issues in the UK such as suicide and homelessness–which are often related to mental health issues.

Physical & teen mental health intertwined

“In particular, it is a time to reflect on my responsibility to look after not just the physical health of my two children, but to treat their mental needs as just as important a priority.”

Prince William brought up a brilliant point about teen mental health: it’s just as important as physical health. One cannot prosper or reach its potential without the other, yet more often than not physical health is put largely ahead of mental health. This is because mental health is often something you cannot physically see until it’s too late. Prince William is right when he says it’s a parent’s responsibility to look after both, not just one or the other.

Mental health issues don’t equal failure

“Recent surveys have found that over half of parents have never broached the topic of mental well-being with their children, and a third would feel like failures if their child needed help. That’s so sad – no parents whose child needs help is a failure. Taking the next step and actually getting help is what matters.”

Many parents think if their son or daughter struggles with a mental health issue, they did something wrong. This is far from the truth. Mental health issues are often a result of many factors, many which a parent cannot control–all you can do as a parent is offer love and support. Instead of trying to hide that your child’s mental health issues, seek out treatment and help them overcome their challenges.

For more information about teen mental health, check out Asheville Academy for Girls.